Lucky Fish N E W S!

Well there is lots going on in the Lucky Fish department these days! First off we want to announce our first collaborative fun effort at the store... Jann is coming to Rhode Island and we are going to host a PRINT WORKSHOP at the store - "What FUN!" you say... well hell YES!

Jann will be bringing some of her favorite screens, we will have some t-shirts and a few scarves to print and good times will be had by ALL! We hope you can come, we are just asking that you contact us and give us a heads UP so that we know how many t-shirts we need (or scarves) and we will have some fun learning just how the MASTER does it :)

Saturday, JUNE 25th
noon - 2pm

t-shirt - $20
scarf - $10
bring your own - $5

I am going to sew a few dresses and things to add to the printing FUN so come and join us!

Hope to see you THERE
Where you ask?...

556 Kingstown Road
Wakefield, RI

email me with any questions!

and for those of you ONLINE folks.... (and in-store) we are offering
Lucky Fish t-shirts for $25 and under!!
(for a short time)

click here to shop!

see we are GOOD to ALL


about one of our makers: Tsia Carson :: Language of the Birds

I love the idea of the name of her collection: Language of the Birds... I think about it each morning that I wake up in Rhode Island and I have these crazy birds outside my window that certainly have their own language and I think I am starting to understand them! One is a something a-kin to a dove I think.. is there such a thing as a sea dove? "coo - coo" he softly says, or is it "whoo - whooo"? But guess what I can make the sound back to him - so yes we can talk... a language of the birds, even though I have no idea where he is or what he is... he is out there!

Spending time in Hawaii is a different kind of Language of the Birds I would imagine, much more tropical and crazy sounds is my guess. In mythology, medieval literature and occultism, the language of the birds is postulated as a mystical, perfect divine language. A green or angelic language, a mythical or magical language used by birds to communicate with the initiated. Tsia Carson aptly named her collection :: Language of the Birds. She has a way to communicate through her simple clothing collection which consists of dresses and tops, because let's face it... that's all you need! (and a pair of jeans... right!)

Tsia is a steward of printing as well as shape - I think this is what makes her collection stand out for me. At a show, there is a sea of vendors, it's terrific if you are a lifelong fashion freak as I am but it can also be overkill, it's like going to Art Galleries all day long, it becomes a glaze. But since it's my job I stay alert - and  good thing because when I walked by Tsia's booth I knew it was for us, and I'll tell you what, you don't see garments made this well often, it would be terrific if more people paid better attention to detail and crisp clean lines and a well made garment. Tsia had her daughter with her and I had mine - so that helped.

I asked Tsia a few questions so this post wasn't all about me, gushing about my new favorite designer (this tends to happen when you find something you really like). So here is our little Q and A.

NCM - tell us about how you started this collection - what was your inspiration?
TC - 1993. Chicago Sal Arms. Racks of 1960s-70s discarded Hawaiian honeymoon mu'umu'u and holomu'us. Each more incredible than the next. A snapshot of my maternal grandmother in the 1960s in Israel. Brightly patterned pant suit, cocktail ring she wore everyday, giant smoky sunglasses, laughing.

NCM - your prints are really unique and I love them... tell us about your process there.
TC - Well I definitely have a point of view with prints. I like big repeats and prints that tell a story. I like it when they feel like they are trying to speak to you. I am not one for prints to simply be pretty. I also feel strongly about how the print feels on the fabric (the sink of the ink, the saturation, the hand) which is why I usually opt for silk-screen. And I can not stand a lazy print where the repeat is poorly done. A print should feel like magic.

My process begins with a concept I want to explore. I try not to get to heavy about it. Last year was "summer", this year I tried to create prints that looked like a close up or xerox of an existing print. I tried to make them look like how things were made before we has such great technology. I was feeling nostalgic for zines. Next year I am working with parking lots. Not kidding. We will see how that goes.

I generally start with a tiny something - a fragment of a Victorian circus poster, a photo of sparklers, a detail of pavement, a paint stroke. It's definitely an open ended process. I end up throwing out a lot of stuff. I am learning on the job so the last two seasons I have worked with Gina Gregorio who teaches at RISD and is super talented. I am slowly taking over as I teach myself textile design. I have no background in it. I am completely unqualified.

NCM - since I am always into food I HAVE to ask you about your favorite recipe/dish 
TC - I love food too, way too much. I have all kinds of crazy dietary restrictions which has taught me to be a good cook. I can make a buckwheat, gluten free, vegan cornbread that will blow your mind. I use coconut yogurt. Right now I have been crazy for this charcoal bread - it's black - so I've conscripted my husband into being a sourdough charcoal bread factory. It's amazing toasted with avocado or good with just olive oil.
NCM - Injection here.. I will get the low-down on this charcoal bread as well as the corn bread so keep checking back! They both sound too good and I need to know more!

NCM - I know you have a connection to Hawaii can you give us a Hawaiian recipe!?
TC - The food culture there is amazing. The restaurants in Honolulu are unbelievably good. It's worth the flight just to eat there - so many talented people making unreal stuff. But a lot of it can't be translated due to ingredients being local and highly perishable. I have been working on a butter mochi recipe but it's still a bit rough. Instead let me share lomi lomi sea asparagus with you. 

Lomi Lomi Sea Asparagus
Lomi means to massage in Hawaiian and it is "traditionally" made with raw salmon but here't the thing- there's no salmon in the waters there so like some other Hawaiian dishes it is a hybrid of many influences. There is a huge cross pollination between Hawaii and Alaska where the salmon comes from. This recipe is adapted from Wenhao H. Sun, Ph.D and his seaweed farm in Oahu (http://www.seaoflifeusa.com/olakai). 

2 cup fresh sea asparagus tips (AKA samphire or glasswort seaweed. Also called "sea bean" on the mainland)
4 med tomato, diced
1 med maui onion (any sweet onion will do), diced

Place sea asparagus in boiling water for 10-30 seconds, and then quickly chill seaweed in a bowl of ice water. Cut the blanched sea asparagus into about 1 inch pieces and soak them in cold water an hour or longer, drain. This will make them less salty (do not skip this step). Optional step: place diced onion in a bowl of ice water for 10 minutes. This will make it easier to digest.
Drain everything, mix all ingredients, chill in refrigerator before serving. Do NOT add salt or dressing.

Variations: trade cucumbers for onions. Use grape or currant tomatoes whole. Add avocado.
Thank you so much Tsia for sharing your talents with us and we are excited to see more from you... anytime soon! And if you are looking for some really amazing things to do with your kids, pick up her book, it's just enough of easy and GOOD, practical crafts to do with your kids! It's called Side by Side by Tsia Carson


five things I'm doing this week...

I get a weekly newsletter from the ladies at 'of a kind', it's called 10 things we are doing this week and I always love to read it! They are delightfully useful and from time to time I pass their ideas onto you! So I decided it was a good idea I start a 'five things I'm doing this week' - because I knew it was impossible that I come up with 10 things each week! I think I can keep this going by keeping my 'things' short and sweet... things you can just do - without a DIY video or anything.

five things I'm doing this week....

1. reading my favorite book in a LONG time - The Nest by Cynthia D'Aprix Sweeney - mostly because of the endorsement of Amy Poehler - I'll read just about anything this hilarious lady thinks is good.

2. Vitamix of the week - coconut water, 1/2 lemon, 1/2 lime, nectarine, handful of arugula, pinch of pepper, small handful of walnuts and some more water and ice! yUM!

3. my new frida No. 6 clogs! obsessed.... obsessed! happy feet!

4. The 'perfect shirt' by Auntie Oti - going on my favorite for three weeks now so I figure it should be on the list!

5. Scallops... I would make scallops every day if I could! I am lucky, my shop shares the same mall as the best fish shop in Rhode Island - Ocean Catch Seafood - I've been grilling them on salads, serving with a mustard sauce (Swedish mustard, sour cream, salt and pepper) and tossing them with quinoa. Every which way they are delicious! (I usually marinate them in olive oil, salt, pepper and lemon - then pan grill them in a really hot pan in some ghee.

I hope you enjoy this new section on my blog as much as I enjoy all of these things!



I pulled this one out of the archives - I have a few sizes left - this is the last time I will have the shampoodle pants (last time I will have shampoodle anything, they have moved on to other ventures). Our favorite Swedish brand is no longer so this is it... Franny and I put this together today and thought we would share it with you... because we liked it so much! :)

 It's a moskiddos top and shampoodle pants!

shop pants here - shampoodle
shop top here - moskiddos top

This is what happens when we hang out on Saturdays together in the shop... we start to take photos and SHOP!


Grad Gifts

I think the jewelry we offer makes incredible graduation gifts! My favorite, the Margaret Solow necklaces - they are perfect for girls AND boys... skeptical, look at boys today they are wearing necklaces and these pieces on a string with a stone are great for both! Choose a stone with a special message: the blue chalcedony in this photo promotes inner knowledge and encourages the mind to become more centered - which helps in making decisions (isn't that just the most difficult for kids of this age!).

use code: 'grad16' for 15% off all jewelry (until June 20)

some additional great ideas are:
margaret solow :: green tourmaline

I have a couple of tourmaline pieces and they are great for detoxing the mind and body, it's a great stone to balance chakras and emits negative ions.

mexican fire opal

This mexican fire opal is a great piece for a boy.. it invokes dynamic energy and intensity!

Check all of Margaret Solow's pieces out in my shop here


Kickstarter :: Koel Magazine

I have shared with you for many years the talents of Irene Hoofs of Bloesem Blog - she is such an inspiration to me and I am constantly trying to be better just so that I can 'try' to stay in her league. She is hosting a kickstarter for her new magazine called Koel, which will be all about crafting and working with yarn and if I know Irene it will be lots of amazing things you can do with your hands, inventive projects - which are not overly complicated, just things you want to make and do for you home.

If you are like me you want to be a part of it from the start... I signed up for the Macrame kit! (can't wait!!) and a copy of her first issue - but you can choose your left of support. I just love seeing someone this talented always working on the next thing and moving forward.

Visit her kickstarter page to get all the details but it's going to be good! So get in there now and support from the beginning!

Happy Crafting and I'm so happy to share this with you!


Roadtrip :: Minnesota to Rhode Island

Life is funny, I was going to take a quick trip to help my mom with a garage sale as she prepares to move to Colorado to be closer to my sister (it was way too hard for us to keep track of her active 87 year old lifestyle from far away - so now she is going to be near my sister - thank god!) It's not the first garage sale our family has been through - that was back in 1984 - but still lot's of my childhood memories and things from my past. Boxes of notes passed between me and my friends in grade-school, drawings I made in art classes and things I haven't looked at since I left them behind.

Since my mom is downsizing quite a bit she is also getting rid of her umpteenth set of Swedish crystal, pottery sets from her hometown in Sweden made by Nitsjo - our family favorite, we have pots and sets for glogg and just about anything else. You'd have thought we lit the entire house with candles we had so many... even after I made my pick (most of it) there was still a large table full of candles and candle holders - we were giving them away at the end of the sale! Copper pots and cooking utensils, my dads tools and I could just go on. So in the end what I thought I was going to ship back to myself in Rhode Island, I packed a SUV rental full of these memories and useful items and drove them back to Rhode Island. Some items will be on my 'Flea Market' in the shop coming up soon here when I get the time to go through it all.

It was a trip down memory lane, I am lucky my mom has her head on straight and she was totally ready to just let it go and live smaller. I on the other hand still want to hold onto every detail of my youth and each piece I touched brought back a delightful memory of our childhood. It's not that I want to hang onto it, I want to share with my kids how delightful and full of love each piece is and the story that it all brings together. I'm well aware that things were not perfect, but we tend to dwell on how perfect it was not and forget that there really was so much that was... perfect. Remember those trolls, we got them in a Scandinavian gift shop "up North" near our cabin in Garrison, MN on Lake Mille Lacs a log cabin in the middle of nowhere... she still had them! I was happy to find so many things I had forgot about and my mom and I laughed together about all of the 'stuff' and how my husband was going to kill me when I got home with it all packed up in the car.

I saw a lot of this... open fields

The trip took me 21 hours in total, I stopped at midnight and woke up at 8am to get back into the car and drive some more! So there was not a lot of sightseeing but I am here to say that Minnesota and Wisconsin are beautiful! I had an eyeful of lush and green, farms, deer, cows and even buffalo. Nothing against it but I don't think I need to get to Illinois, Indiana and Ohio anytime soon although I follow a couple of people from Ohio on Instagram and I know it's an interesting place! New York State is where it got pretty again and I knew the only 'stop' that I wanted to make was in Albany, NY at the Empire Plaza and that did not let me down! Since I have been home I have been talking about it and I have not met a single person who knew about this plaza, it's the most peaceful, beautiful place I have seen since we used to lay in the middle of the World Trade center, on the benches surrounding the fountain and just bask in the silence. The Empire Plaza has that same stillness just like being in a different time. The sheer size is just a boggle to the mind, it's GIANT the towers are so large and cantilever in a way that makes them balletic.

Empire Plaza in Albany

I will be taking the family back to Albany and the Empire Plaza, I can't imagine NOT having them see it - it's a natural feeling/man-made wonder. On the same vein as Brasilia... I think the trip would be to Albany, then Herkimer to look for gems and do some camping and then down to Hudson again. There is something peaceful about taking a road trip alone, I completely enjoyed it. I got the new Krista Tippet book 'Becoming Wise' on tape and listened to that much of the way - fantastic book! (another blogs worth) - there was something I loved about driving across the country and listening to her voice much of the time that just made me feel Wise and Peaceful!

a truck full of onions

Thank you Enterprise Car Rental for offering such a reasonable rate to pick up and drop off in another location. It's nice to know that there is a company out there that can fathom the 'road trip' and facilitate a trip like that and encourage people to get out there and see our great country.

Follow me on Instagram where you will see more photos and more stories of my travels and the shop - at nonchalantmom


music :: what's your delight?

I am terrible with music and I can't even believe that I am giving advice on music but this is just meant to be a light... what are your 10 favorite things-type post. I have so many favorite things right now, my shop, my sweet customers that come and actually remember our old shop on Main Street and say that they missed me, big *heart* goes out for all that and my kids are the biggest delight. I'm not home as much anymore but they are handling it with true rigor - homework, chores, and new challenges - it's all been a good thing.

But life is not always a bowl of cherries, I know that... I have found that music is my drug - I have a new relationship with music that I never had because I play music all day in my shop - well not on Sundays when I listen to all the storytelling on NPR. These are my top five searches I have found in Pandora. I shared some of these with my sister and she told me I should write a post about it and so here it goes.

1. My most favorite Pandora search is "Billy Paul" - he sang "Me and Mrs. Jones" (one of my all-time favorite songs). Well he died recently, just about the same time as Prince, and as tribute to him I did a Billy Paul search and it's the most delightful music for the entire day!

 2. You are not going to believe this but my second favorite is "Gordon Lightfoot" - I have no idea how I came upon this but it's great! I just let it go all day long and it's perfect, it makes me laugh.

3. I read an article about Benjamin Clementine in the T Magazine and bought the album and I love it - it also makes a great Pandora search. You end up with a bit of bluesy songbird-type music.

4. Johnny Hartman is one of my later in the day searches and I love it - just a cool lul that helps me finish off the day. And we all need a bit of romance in our lives, we would starve without it.

5. The Eagles is my last... this is a bit similar to Gordon Lightfoot but just slightly different.

E N J O Y...


elixirs & co. - to the RESCUE!

I found these people on my last trip to Paris, when I ran out I knew I needed to get this in my shop because I knew you would love these scents and helpful - homeopathic - healing remedies. I will say up front that these do not work the same for anyone and everyone, but I know they work for me and my family, so I wanted to share them with you. I use them and I know they help me get through some of the toughest of times. On an easy day I like to use the harmonious toilet waters and if I go out I like to use the perfumes (I have this secret feeling that they bring light and delight to an entire room!). The toilet waters are light and easy, the roll-on's are my serious ammunition against trouble.

I know it wouldn't seem like it but the Art world that my husband is a part of is quite stressful, I tell people it's almost like being married to a gambler and I am never sure how we are going to make out. So there are quite a few times when I secretly roll his temples before bed with either "stress" or "depression" and even "urgency" - and to be perfectly honest I have put all three on him (in the very recent past). It's amazing - of course doesn't solve your problems for you -- but I like to say that you don't get mired in your troubles, you have a way of seeing your way out - optimistically. And sometimes that's really all you can do... He doesn't even ask anymore, he just puts his head forward and I roll them on.

I didn't really cross my mind to use them on my kids (I don't know why not they are like my own personal laboratory!), and since these are based on Bach's flower remedies they are completely natural and it's not as if there can become an addiction and you can't overdose.. it's just flowers for gods sake! Anyway, my son said to me one day that it's very stressful being a straight A student, and I thought... I didn't know it was stressful for him, I just thought he was getting A's! He said it's stressful worrying that he's not going to get an A - so I rolled his forehead with "stress" and he walked away. I did it just a couple of other times (maybe 2-3) and it's never come up again. Now I'm getting into what prompted me to write this.. I'm not going to get into our boring life story but when my husband is out of town I spend a lot of time running the kids around from school, soccer, after school activities... now that I have a shop I can't always just take off. So our solution was for Sander to skateboard to my store after his tennis practice (it's about a 40 minute ride on a bike path) - he arrived at the front of my store with a large bleeding elbow scrape and bleeding from his knee and need I say... in tears. I will go so far as to say that he was a bit hysterical and super upset. URGENCY! I thought, he sat down and I rolled it on his forehead, and we cleaned up the scrapes and it was done. A couple of days later we were talking about it and he said "that was weird, after you rolled that on I had an immediate calm feeling and I felt like I was okay" It was true, it just helped him get a grip.

Next up was my 10 year old daughter. They are doing the Parcc tests at school and she is crying every night because she is just terrified of it... it's crazy for 4th graders to be put through this stuff but I just told her to do her best and that's all she can do and by the way, she will be taking tests for the next ten years (if not more) so try to get used to it and maybe even like it. That didn't work so well... she was still upset - but I thought.. "Stress"! One night when she was crying in bed (for quite a while before I noticed) I checked in to see what was wrong and I gave her some of the "Stress" and it was almost immediate, she turned over and fell asleep... just like that. We have been doing the "stress" each morning as she goes to class during this testing period and when I talked to her teacher she said that she was doing a lot better and I can tell that she is handling it better.


.. I just had to tell you about that :)

Urgency = really difficult situations - I used it for surgery, kids traumatic events (I know there are lots of those), big events in your life (death or sickness)

Depression = You don't need to be in a deep depression, although if you are I'm sure it will help, I use it for my period, crappy days...

Stress = I think the world should take this right now... but you will find so many instances when this can work. Family stress, school, work... list goes on.

If I don't have them in stock then I am working on it! Almost sold out of Stress and Depression right now...


Mothers Day 2016!

We are offering a special MOTHERS DAY 20% OFF!

use code: 'mom2016' during checkout and the 20% off will be applied
cannot be used on past orders
no stacking of codes
not included: black crane, little paisley people and Two caftans

jewelry in photo
foreground: margaret solow
background bracelet: kalosoma
14k gold fine jewelry: Melissa Joy Manning
brass pieces: soko
handmade leather and stitched pieces: Robin Mollicone

Looking back... and forward!

While we are in the midst of opening our new store I wanted to take some time to reflect on why it is that we are doing this and how it all started...

I started Nonchalantmom back in the summer of 2004 with a simple idea. I wanted to provide something for women and mothers like myself, there was nothing like it online (funny to think of that now). I wanted to offer alternative ideas when it came to raising their children and to provide a place where moms could find beautiful handcrafted things for their kids, and then later we began to offer things for women too. I loved Lucky Fish, Makie, Erica Tanov and Margaret Solow and I knew that other people would too. I still work with these guys and we have become the best of friends, in the coming years we added talented people like Jess Brown, Sue Tsai of nico nico, and Katherine who makes Wovenplay among others. I don’t like to have anything in my store that isn’t made by someone I respect and equally respect what they are doing, I have nothing against men, but this meant that most the people I work with are women. It’s almost as if I become friends with all my vendors - and if I don’t they don’t stay around long. It’s important to me that we are all a big family and invested in each others success. When people ask me how do I know that I want in my store, I tell them that when I am in a partnership with a designer I know it’s going to work for me and be good for my customers. I believe that a store like mine is about being in a partnership with my customers, the vendors and myself. I know I can’t compete with big stores and I don’t try to - what we are doing is different. When you shop from us you are helping a designer work from home and raise her kids, she works with a factory that employs people who work hard, have regular hours and go home and spend time with their family. The garments are made with fabric that isn’t always organic but it’s made in the USA, Italy, India or Japan, again in factories with workers who are paid to work and then go home and spend time with their families. It’s all a part of a chain of respect - and that respect comes at a price that is different from something that is made in a factory with less than optimal conditions (that’s putting it lightly), that is not living wage.
Part of that loving relationship meant that I wanted to open a shop again, I missed being part of my community in the town we have called home for the last 12 years - Wakefield, Rhode Island. The decision to open a shop was not an easy one, I’ve never had the kind of wealth that allowed me to think extravagantly - whatever I was going to do needed to focus on ‘simple’ and straightforward, in both concept and design. When the space that I eventually took became available I knew it was the perfect place for Nonchalantmom - and things just came together after that, we built the furniture, we took things from our home and the result is just beautiful! So whether you are shopping online or in the store you are a part of our family, you are contributing to a place that is part of a hard working chain of people making good things. One day our concept will not be so unique and I will look forward to that day - it means more people making and designing great things that will make this planet better for all. PEACE OUT!


rip :: Prince

A hero to so many and one of the most unique individuals on the planet, we are so lucky he chose to share his great gifts with us - thank you Prince. If you are like me, from Minnesota and at a certain age we felt that Prince was our secret - we didn't really know that the world knew so much about him or was going to know so much about him. He owned our local dance joint - First Avenue and brought great acts there and occasionally showed up to play himself if we were lucky.

I feel compelled, as so many do today, to tell my Prince stories - I have a few, we loved him - but I also didn't feel cool enough myself to be a real groupie. When I was in my first year at college in Minneapolis a girlfriend and I skipped school for at least a week and signed up as extras for a movie called Purple Rain, we dressed up like nightlife Prince groupies - a bit Madonna a bit Prince - and showed up at 5am to sign in as 'extras'. Dancing all day, it was so exciting, but we honestly thought... "I'm not so sure about this movie..." we were just happy to be with the music and dance! (and we got paid something like $100/day) and the song Purple Rain, we just loved that song the moment we heard it, by the end of shooting we knew every word and we would sing it to each other constantly (while waving our hands in the air like we were supposed to during the movie shoot!). I got to be in a scene with him and Morris Day, I was so electrified by Prince I was almost immovable. I don't remember much about what I did in school that year but I will never forget that week.

If we weren't at First Avenue we were at Graffiti's a small dance-pit place that was previously a bank, with tall ceilings and graffiti painted everywhere, it had all of this ornate stone architecture. There was a Mezzanine where nobody really sat, except for Prince - every once in a while he would stop in. This night was Halloween and I was dressed as A Prince (not THE Prince), I was asked by his guards to come and sit at his table and as I stumbled to try to tell him that I was not trying to dress like him, I was really just dressed as a random Prince in a fairy tale... I actually got a smile from him, that never happened, but it did... to me!

In later years I saw him in an elevator, I drove into his driveway - his home was near my sisters house so we used to smoke pot and then say to each other... "let's go look at Princes house" seemed like a good idea at the time... haha...

He was a signpost for us quiet and shy Minnesota folk, the way he stayed in Minnesota, the way he could have done anything but he stayed there and just painted his house purple. Be your own guide to your unique future and let it take you where it will.  I am shocked to know that he was only six years older than I was, when he made Purple Rain he was 24 years old! Just march to your own beat and keep your integrity. Prince will forever live in my heart and represent a unique future that we all can cultivate of our own.

rip - prince



We are so very happy to announce that our new shop is OPEN! I am completely delighted with the outcome (I frankly don't ever want to go home anymore!), we used some muscle and built our own furniture, painted a LOT and put some nice plywood to good use. It became a family affair (Claire you are part of our family!) and the result is even more amazing than I could have imagined!

The next time you are in the Wakefield/Narragansett area you must stop by... I am sure we will have (better) photos to follow but we are OPEN and can't wait to see you in our shop.

ugh, these are quick snapshots... we don't have a sign yet... so more to come!

love - carina

Mom's Day is coming up... 20% off!

When the weather is warming up you know that Mothers Day is coming up... I look forward to a day at Brimfield Flea Market, I make sure to get a little something for myself, and a breakfast in bed... that's all I need! We are offering a very special (not usually offering a S A L E at this time of year) 20% off almost the entire store*! Stop in, troll around and shop for awhile - and let me know if you have any questions!

 Use code: 'mom2016' - 20% off!

(*not including: new Black Crane, Two and Little Paisley People)

quick link to Makie dress in photo here